Just because time has passed since you felt an emotion and it subsided, doesn't necessarily mean it was released. When we repress or react to an emotion, it can subside temporarily, or in other words, go “dormant”. But because it wasn’t fully processed, it will inevitably get retriggered and brought back to the surface.
I want to share the signs I’ve noticed in myself and my clients that an emotion is actually released so you can start tuning into these signs for yourself.
We all know we should “feel our feelings”. But there’s a big difference between actually feeling your feelings and knowing you should.
You can’t drive a boat on land (it will just stay stuck); it moves in water.
Just like you can’t move an emotion by thinking about it (it will just stay stuck); it moves in the body.
A few years ago, I would have read this and thought “yeah yeah yeah, I know, feel your feelings”. But I wasn’t actually doing it.
I wasn’t actually noticing when a feeling was coming up, feeling it directly in the body and breathing through it until it completely dissolved (to where you feel completely neutral, light, free & clear).
I was thinking about how I felt, feeling bad about how I felt and always trying to talk myself into feeling better. Which only kept me stuck.
Allowing and actually FEELING (not thinking about) your emotions is how they dissolve and transmute back into free flowing energy.
Otherwise they get “stuck” in the body, feel like a weight we’re carrying around, and keep us stuck in unconscious reactions, emotional states and unwanted circumstances.
Learning how to do this (and actually doing it) has changed my life more than I can put in words.
On the other side, every time, is more lightness, freedom and clarity.
Joy and inner peace are no longer fleeting, temporary states. It’s become my norm. And when it’s not, I can quickly come back.
Keep in mind that these are the telltale signs I’ve noticed for myself and my clients but your experience might feel a little different. If you don’t experience all 7 signs or experience them in this exact way, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not releasing.
Activated emotions are kind of like a shooken up snow globe. Once everything settles back to the bottom (once the emotion is released), you feel a palpable shift. You feel settled, at ease and still versus shooken up.
For example, whereas before there was a heaviness in the chest, thumping in the heart, tension in the head or whatever sensations your emotion is presenting as, there’s now a deep sense of spaciousness and lightness.
If you start to feel tingling, that’s usually a great sign energy is releasing or has been released.
You feel detached and have a sense that all is well and you’ll be okay no matter what. Before, when you thought about the situation, it would churn up the emotion. Now, when you bring it to mind, it no longer has a grip on you and feels like no big deal.
You might find yourself completely unbothered or reacting in much more peaceful, grounded, effective ways.
Yawning doesn’t always mean an emotion is fully processed but it’s a really great sign it’s in progress. Keep going until it feels complete. Your breathing might also get slower, easier and smoother as you fully process an emotion.
You might still have a light preference but you ultimately know you’re good either way. For example, you might prefer that your boss doesn’t raise their voice at you but your okayness is no longer dependent on it and you’re no longer deeply triggered by it.
Once an emotion is fully processed, your thoughts about it will no longer have a strong grip on you and instead of a racing, over-thinking mind, there will be a much calmer, quieter quality to the mind.
Once the emotion is cleared, new potentials will open up.
Usually, these signs only show up if you’ve been repressing an emotion (or many emotions) for a while. This doesn’t mean that every physical symptom is due to repressed emotions…it just means it could be.
Oftentimes, when we have an uncomfortable emotion coming up, the mind will try to avoid it with busyness. This could look like doing chores, working more, calling a friend, etc. If you feel an urge to be busy and it feels uncomfortable to slow down, check in to see if there’s any emotions you’re avoiding.
I hope this blog served you. May you have a magical rest of your day.
If you want support actually processing your emotions, I can help. Learn more about working with me here.
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