you can't fuck it up and if you could, you could handle it

podcast Jul 05, 2021

I recently had a consult call with a potential client where I felt like I "fucked it up" and scared her away with my energy and what I said on the call. a few hours later, I had an epiphany that COMPLETELY shifted my energy and mindset around it in an instant - I recorded this episode on my phone right after having that breakthrough.

If you've recently had an experience in your life or business right now where you feel like you fucked up or wish you would have said/done things differently, listen to this episode. this shift gave me so much freedom and peace and my intention is that it does the same for you.


In this episode, you'll learn:

✧ Why you cannot fail
✧ Why it's okay even if you do fail
✧ How would you handle failure
What attitude should we have towards failure


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Xoxo, Madison 


Full Episode Transcript:

Hello, and
welcome to the magnetical you podcast. I'm your host, Madison cert, I am a mindset energy coach here to help you feel your freaking best and manifest a life full of magic miracles and abundance. I know that whatever led you here did not happen by coincidence. So I am so excited and grateful to have you here. So let's let the magic begin. Hi, and welcome back to the magnetical your podcast, I am recording this episode on my phone. So the audio is not going to be as great but I have a message I want to share. So I am recording it in real time I'm laying on the couch in a blanket watching the Kardashians and this epiphany came through me that I want to share with you.
this is about how you can't fuck it up. And if you could, it would be okay, you could handle what's on the other side of fucking it up. What's on the other side of fucking something up is literally just an emotion, just a circumstance, just an experience all that you're capable of handling moving through moving past. So how this came up, was I had a console call earlier today. And it was great. We had a great conversation. And as the conversation was wrapping up, it was clear that the natural flow of the conversation was okay, this call is complete. I'm going to think about it and get back to you and let you know if I would like to join your coaching program. And instead of allowing the conversation to naturally end there. I rambled on for about 30 seconds, just saying like, oh, like I'm so excited. I think this would be a great fit. I just started like rambling off because I was uncomfortable. I was uncomfortable with the unknown I was uncomfortable with is she gonna join? Is she not as like, the call was only 12 minutes? Did I tell her enough about the coaching? Did?
Did I not say enough? Oh my gosh, should I like reiterate that this is a good thing. And she and to make sure she makes sure she wants it. Right. So I did a little bit of that. nothing compared to what I used to do in the past. I used to do an hour of it. In the past this call it was like 30 seconds. So hashtag progress. And most of my console calls. I wouldn't say I do that on this call I did. So we got off the call and I felt I felt weird about it. I felt icky about I felt like oh like that wasn't that those last 30 seconds were not my highest self those last 30 seconds. Were not me being in my power. Those last 30 seconds were not aligned with how I genuinely desire
showing up. And so I started feeling really weird about it feeling really icky about it feeling like regret and like oh my god, like why did I say that? Like, you know, just kind of like going in circles, like repeating the call in my head like,
Oh my god, should I have said this differently? Should I have said something else differently? Like, Did I scare her away? Did I fuck it up? Like oh my gosh, like what I said probably like, she probably thought I was so desperate and like was so turned off and like is never going to talk to me again. And all this crazy shit that our human brains like to do. Then spiritual lizard Madison comes in and she's like, you can't fuck it up. Like you can't say the wrong thing to the right person. It's either aligned or it's not. And whatever you said, is obviously not make or break. So like, you just can't fuck it up. And I was trying it was like I was trying to force that story. Oh, that sounds great. And all of those thoughts and beliefs are helpful when they're not in resistance. But I was in resistance I was not feeling the feeling of I was not allowing myself to feel the disappointment in myself for showing up in a way that like wasn't really how I wanted to show up. Instead of feeling that a disappointment I tried to bypass it and go right into positive petty like, oh, like it's impossible to fuck it up like, but a lot of the raw and I was like noticing myself trying it trying to like push that on myself. And I just kept resisting it more and more. And I'm feeling more guilty feeling more like oh my god, like why did I say that? Like oh my god. Like, like, why did you do that? You shouldn't have done that. Like, why couldn't you have just like Shut your fucking mouth?
The before going into all of that, why Could he have just let the call and it was so good? Like, why did you have to do that? beating myself up and then trying to positive talk positive thought my way out of it. Resistance, more resistance more resistance resistance so much. So it was not feeling good. So I was like, Okay, I'm going to
leave this alone, I'm going to go like cooked dinner I just went on with went on with my life. And I was making dinner. And then I had dinner. And I'm watching the Kardashians and I had this come to me, I was like, wait, what if? What if I did fuck it up? And what if that's okay. Let's say, let's say I fucked it up, let's say those last 30 seconds. Were a deal breaker for her. She was like, oh, everything's great until this point. And then oh my god, she said these, like, these random rambling things. And now I've got a weird vibe, and I'm out. I don't want it anymore. What if that hat was What happened? What if that were true? What if that's what happened? Is that okay? And can I handle that? I was like, Yes. It's okay. It's okay. I do believe we can't fuck it up. Right? Like, there's some reason I said it. There's some reason it happened. It's happening in my favor. It's all working out. For me, even though in this specific scenario, it might not look like that at this particular moment. And I think we get to like hold, we're allowed to, like hold two opposing paradoxes. So it's like, we can pack it up. And if we did, it's okay. If I did, it's okay. And this is like, this is emotional intelligence. This is what shifted everything for me in my life and business in the last few months. And like, this is the biggest piece that allowed me to go from like, not being able to pass one to two came on to my business Two months later, hitting an 11k a month, and continuing to just like, grow and uplevel from there, because I realized, like, I'm the kind of person who can handle it all. And yeah, I still have should come up, my brain still wants to take me into these old stories take me interfere, take me into doubt. And it's okay. It's, it's all okay. None of it is a problem. None of it means anything is wrong with me. None of it means I'm not going to have a successful business. None of it means I'm not going to sign my next client. I'm going to sign my next client, regardless of whether this person joins or not. So if I quote, fucked it up with her, if that were even possible, if that were even a thing, it's okay. It's okay. Because she's just one person. And maybe it wasn't meant to be, and there's someone else who I get to work with. Or maybe it's all fine. And she didn't even notice anything weird. And she desires to join, and she's going to join, and now it would be great. And I would welcome that. And I would love that. And if for some reason I scared her away, which probably didn't happen. But if I did, it's okay. It's not a problem. It doesn't mean I'm bad. It doesn't mean I'm wrong. It doesn't mean Everything's ruined forever. It doesn't mean I'm fucked. It just been so. Okay. Who do I want to be now? How do I want to move forward now? And who I want to be now is I forgive myself? For rambling for 30 seconds. It's okay. It's not a problem. I can handle it. I'll never even know if I quote, fucked it up anyways, unless she reaches out to me and says you're weird. And I don't want it. Like, that's not gonna happen. So I'll never even know anyways. And even if I did, I could handle it. And that shifted everything for me because it allowed. It allowed me to drop the resistance. It allowed me to come to neutrality. And neutrality is where, like, I can be at peace. I'm like, Oh, it's okay. If I didn't fuck it up, and she wants to join and everything's fine. It's okay. If I didn't fuck it up. And she still doesn't want to join. It's okay. If I fucked it up. And she does want to join It's okay if I fucked it up and she doesn't want to join like, it's all fucking okay. It's all good. It's all okay. And when you become the person who can really anchor yourself and bring yourself back to like, I can handle it all. It's all okay, none of it's a problem. None of it means I'm bad. None of it means I'm wrong. None of it means anything about me or my ability to create, or what I get to have in my future, or how successful I get to be or how many clients I get to have in the future, it means nothing, you become unstoppable. And it's like this kind of thing in the past, I would let take me down for a very long time, it would turn into self torture would turn into spiraling, I would continue the pattern, I would probably continue the pattern on the calls. And it's like, now I get to just take this lesson with me going forward. When the call feels energetically complete within me, I can allow it to be energetically complete, I can complete the call, I can trust that it's complete, I can allow both of us to hang up, and I can move on with my life. And I get to take that with me into the next call. With all of the resistance, I wasn't going to be able to take that with me now I get to take the lesson with me. And I might still assign the client. And I'm still gonna sign my next client and the next and the next and the next like this has no bearing on
who I am. And what I get to have. It's just an experience that I get to look at and say, You know what? It's all okay. It's all okay. And I'm okay with it all. I can handle I'm strong enough to handle it. Okay, so yeah, like, it's like, let's say I did fuck it up. And she is thinking, Oh, my God, Madison's crazy, she's she acted weird, which like, none of this. I don't actually believe any of this. But let's just say hypothetically speaking, this happened. And then, for some reason, I have felt telepath II. And I know that she's thinking that. And then I have thoughts about what she's thinking. And I feel like oh my God, I've read all that all they could possibly ever come from it is a feeling a feeling of like, rejection, embarrassment, whatever. And it's like, I can handle rejection, I can handle embarrassment, like, it's not that fucking bad. And when we realize that, the whole spectrum of emotions, we can handle them all. None of them are that bad, we open ourselves up to so many more opportunities, and experiences that we previously may have self sabotage or close ourselves off to so I share this to remind you that you are strong enough to handle whatever comes up from whatever you've done in the past. It's done. And whatever comes from it. You're strong enough to handle it. And you've got to take the lessons with you moving forward. You can't fuck it up. And if you could, you're okay. I know both of those things don't make sense together. But the magic doesn't make sense. The magic in life. Does that make sense? I don't want to live to make sense. I don't need a mindset. That makes sense. I want to live a life better than I ever thought possible. I want to live a life that's in alignment. So it doesn't need to make sense. So I'm hoping that this shifted something within you today because this was I hope that you can like feel the shift in your body and allow yourself to feel the shift in your body because this was a huge shift for me. So wherever it is in your life or your business, like something that's been coming up recently, where you feel like you wish you would have done things differently, you wish he would have said things differently. I hope that you can receive from this podcast what you need to forgive yourself, release the resistance and remember that the worst thing that can happen is an emotion and you can handle it. So I will leave you with that. Thank you so much for listening to the magnetically you podcast. If this episode served you I ask that you share it with someone who could make a difference for or share it on social media and tag me at magnetically you. Make sure to hit subscribe so you don't miss any of the magic. And it would mean the world to me if you would leave a review on iTunes. Thank you so so much from the bottom of my heart for being here. And I will see you in the next episode.

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