why I don't set goals

podcast Jun 28, 2021

Do you feel frustration and lack every time you think about your unmet goals? To me, this is NOT the vibe.

Goals are inherently limited because our brains can only come up with what "makes sense" based on our past and current realities. But I don't want a life that makes sense. I don't want to live the same old shit on repeat. I want a life that's BEYOND what my brain can even imagine or come up with. I want a life that has NO limits. Life is not a math equation; it's a fucking miracle. I'm not saying goals are good or bad but what I am saying is that they aren't required to create results.


In this episode, you'll learn:

✧ What having no goals opens up for me and why I don't set them
✧ Why I don't need a goal to remind me where I'm going and what I'm creating
✧ What I focus on instead of "how can i get to X goal?"
✧ Why goals aren't good or bad


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Full Episode Transcript:


Hello and welcome to the magnetical you podcast. I'm your host Madison cert Ike, I'm a mindset energy coach, here to help you feel your freakin best and manifest a life full of magic miracles and abundance. I know that whatever led you here did not happen by coincidence. So I am so excited and grateful to have you here. So let's let the magic begin. Hi, and welcome back to that magnetically you podcast. This is going to be a quick one simple one, I just want to share with you about why I don't set goals. I don't think there's a right or a wrong thing. I don't think goals are bad. I'm not saying everybody go erase all your goals cancel all your goals. This is not about whether you should set goals or not. This is about why I personally don't set goals and you can make of it which you would like to make of it you can apply what feels good in your life. Or if it doesn't feel good for you, then it doesn't feel good for you. So it's all about what it feels aligned for you. So it's you know, do your goals expand you? Or do you feel like lack and frustration every time you look at them or think about them? Do they make you feel like I'm here, but I need to be there and I'm not there yet. And I wish I was there. And I shouldn't be there. If something goes wrong with me. What am I doing? What do I need to figure out? What do I need to do more? If that's what the goal brings out for you? Is that serving you? Or some people might have a goal and be like, Fuck, yes, I've got the goal. I can't wait to achieve it. And I can't wait for the process of achieving it. And I'm gonna have so much fun on the way. And I'm so excited about this goal. And as me I am going to, I'm so expanded, I feel excited. I feel gross. Right, cool. That's the goal. So we're just notice, let whatever is true for you be true for you. There's no fucking right or wrong way. And you know, the reason to let me share with you the reasons why I don't set goals. For me personally, having no goals, to me feels like, there are no caps, there are no constraints, there is no limits, there are infinite possibilities. When I set a goal for me, it feels like I'm capping myself. I'm limiting myself, I'm squashing the infinite possibilities. I'm putting myself in a box. I'm trapping myself, I'm not afraid to flow with infinite possibilities. I'm not free to flow with what's for my highest good, it feels trapping, it feels like a box I it feels not the vibe that I want. For me, I hold goals loosely. And I wouldn't even call them goals. It's actually more like desires. I focus more on my desire, what do I want? What would be exciting? What would be so fun. And it's like goals. When we set a goal. It's the only way we can set a goal is from our past experience. And from our current reality now, we can try our best to imagine, oh, who am I going to be in the future? What am I going to be what's going to be possible for me in the future, and we can try our best to set it from that place. But we're always working from the limits of our human brains, which is informed by the past and our current reality. So for me, it feels like clamping down and you know, I like just see it as like, I don't need a goal to remind me where I'm going like the goal doesn't tell me Okay, now you go now you have something to work towards. Now you move now you go. It's like no, I align. I do the aligned thing, the intuitive thing and then I keep going I line I do the line thing. And then I keep going I don't think about the thing I don't question thing I don't wonder is is going to add up to the goal line, I do the line thing. And then I keep going. It's not the goal that tells me go I don't need a goal. Something outside of me to tell me go my intuition tells me go I tell me go my goal. My goal my doing my inspired action is internally created rather than created by God to go meet this goal, what I focus on instead of how can I get to x goal, I think I remember what I was saying earlier. So I hold my desires loosely. You can call them goals, whatever you want loosely, like this month, I've already made $10,000 my first 10 a month. And there's still a few days left in the month. And I would love I would love to make 20k I would love to make 30k I would love to make 50k it's all possible. And I'm excited about all the possibilities. I am open and willing to be guided I'm open and willing to all possibilities I am open to have things happening better than I could have ever expected. Oh, can I remember what I was saying about the mind? So our minds are limited based on the past and our current reality. So what we can create is so much more than our brains can even wrap our minds around like we cannot possibly logical lies. I don't know if that's a word, logical eyes, analyze add up how things are going to what we're capable of, like what's coming for us. What we're creating what we're capable of is literally beyond comprehension. It's beyond what we can even imagine. So if I know my goal is based on what I can imagine, then it feels to me like I'm limiting myself from what I can't imagine something better than I could even imagine. That's just how it feels for me. Again, not saying those right The wrong way. So for me what I focus on instead of how can I get to x goal? How can I create the goal? It's more about for me just having an open energy playing with possibility, like, whoo, like, what if I made 20 fucking k this month? Like, that would be so fun. That'd be fucking awesome. It's already so awesome. But I've already made and I love it. I'm so grateful. Oh my gosh, I love it so much. And what if we paid more? What if I could do it? What if it happened? Oh my gosh, I think it could happen. It's totally possible. It's totally possible now I'm totally capable now could totally happen now. I'm open and willing to be guided, I'm open to all possibilities and open to it all. I'm open to it turning out better than I could have even predicted. So that's by energy around playing with possibilities playing with debt, my desires and some questions you can ask yourself that for me feel like they serve me more than how can I get x goal? How can I make the donut guy like if I'm sitting around going like, how can I make 20 guys without good? I want to get them like my I don't know, fuck. And I do it. I don't know, what do I do? What am I supposed to do? Oh my god, do I need to do more? Should I go do this? What do I do? What's right thing? Not my vibe. My vibe is? Hmm. How could I have more fun today? How can I make today matter more? How can I lead my energy today? How can I be who I want to be today? Who do I want to be today? And how can I be that person today? How do I want to feel today? And how can I feel that way today? What am I desiring? How can I follow that desire today? What am I feeling nudge to? How can I follow those nudges today? To me that allows you to enjoy the process. And then you're following your intuition. And then the outcomes get to just be an inevitable byproduct of who you are of having fun of following your intuition and following your desires feels much better. For me. Again, this is just me personally, I like to kind of like tie this back to what I used to do intuitive eating coaching. A lot of my clients were so stressed out about how much they weigh in the scale. And oh my god, I want the scale to be at this number and it's at this number and oh my god, why am I not there yet? What is wrong with me? So what I would have to my clients about is okay, if obsessing over the wait is not feeling good for you? And what do you believe that certain weight will give you? What do you think that will allow you to experience? What do you think that will allow you to feel? What do you think that you'll be thinking? What will you believing? Who will you be being? How will you be showing up? And what if you just focus directly on those things? If you think if I lose 10 pounds, then there'll be more confident. How can you focus directly on competence today? What would allow you to feel competence today in this moment? Does it not feel more exciting? Then? How can I lose 10 pounds today like fuck, oh, not my vibe. So want to for those of you who are aligning with this, if this is speaking to you, I want this to just be like a permission to like, stop clinging so hard to the goals permission to let go of them or permission to erase them from your whiteboard of seeing it every fucking day makes you feel like shit. This is your permission. And for those of you who are lit the fuck up by seeing your goal on your whiteboard and you want to track every dollar on your way to your money goal or everything that happens on your way to your goal. And that feels good for you that feels expansive that feels like the Yes, this is me following my desired intuition, then this is your permission to do that. The goal is not the thing that gets to decide what you get to have. Whether you have a goal or not. That's not the make or break factor of whether or not you're going to surpass that goal. There's no like, if I don't have a goal, then I won't be motivated. I won't hit it. No. Or if I have a goal then there are no rules. There are no constraints. The goal is not a requirement to achieve what you want to achieve magic to manifest fucking epic. Shit. It's not a requirement. You can play with it if it feels good. Are you going to hold it loosely? If that feels good, or you can completely entirely let go of the goal? and focus on how can I find today? How can I follow my desire? How can I follow my intuition? Who do I want to be today? That is all I have for you today. Thank you so much for listening. I do want to let you know that as of recording this right now may 28 it's going to come out a few weeks later so things could have changed. But as of right now while I'm recording this I have one more spot open in my private coaching program. I want to help you become the person who creates a fucking magical results. Whether or not you have the goal, whether or not you feel high vibe or perfect all the time. Whether or not you feel anxious or sad or high vibe or afraid like I want to help you become the person who lives from a place of intuition and desire, who has fun who lives her life who be who she wants to be today. And then things you desire the results you want become an inevitable byproduct. So if you're like yes, this is what I'm looking for. Ready to let go of the shit holding me back I'm done, obsessing over things. I'm ready to be the person I want to be. I'm ready to show up fully no matter what, if that's what you want, send me a DM. If you feel like that spot is for you, if you're feeling a little inkling in your body, send me a DM. And we'd get you started if it's if it's feeling aligned for both of us. And also, I do have a membership coming up. So stay tuned for that. I'll be dropping more information about that on a podcast soon but the gist of it it's going to be a very no brainer price to join this membership. You can do monthly or for the entire year, it's going to be fucking incredible. It's going to be a membership, all about healing your energy, detoxing your mind and energy of the shed that's holding you back of the things within you that are leading you to not show up fully to self sabotage to overcompensate and doo doo doo doo doo because you got to get to the golf. So releasing all of that to open your energy up to more possibility. So that's coming soon, it might be released by time this episode comes out. So if that's speaking to you send me a DM if you want to know more about the membership, but that is all for today. If you liked this episode, I would love if you would share it with someone who you think would benefit from it or screenshot it, share it on Instagram Stories tag me and I hope you have a beautiful day. I hope something magical happens in your world today. I'm setting that intention for you today. And that is I'll see you on the next episode. Thank you so much for listening to the magnetically you podcast. 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